 "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.' We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others". - Marianne Williamson
It's important I know my "Big Why". Why do I do what I do....every day, month and year.
My big why? To provide Freedom for my family by creating wealth in character, Christ, Business, health, finances and relationships.
Freedom is my "Big Why" Everything I do is supposed to point ahead and support my "Big Why". If I discover that my actions don't support my big why it's important I change my actions.
My big why gets me up in the morning on my worst day. My big why brings tears to my eyes....daily. My big why keeps me going when the energy is gone and fatigue has set in. My big why will be here after I am gone. So, what is your big why?
 It's been said that my comfort zone is the most dangerous place to live. What feels safe, cozy and warm is actually my life wasting away into oblivion. In a few hundred, hell, 50 years from now I won't be a thought in anyone's mind. So why am I so afraid to live my life?
Forget the why! I am learning to deliberately face my fear until the fear subsides. One way I have done this is by creating two of me in my mind. The first me is the decision maker. The guy flipping the switch. "On or off Jason. Just make the decision." I tell myself. The second me is the action taker. This is the guy who has to show up to the meeting set up by the switch flipper. It's a love hate relationship between the two. Most of the time the action taker is terrified and is dragged along kicking a screaming. Why is he such a big baby?
Forget the why! We've learned not to listen to his whining. You see, a strange thing is happening. The more we flip the switch and take action, the more confident we become. The more confident we become, the more we flip the switch and take action. Brian Tracy calls this "spiraling upward." I call it living outside of my comfort zone.
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 My mentor told me that the team atmosphere at his company causes people to live for the work week. His employees are not trading 5 days of work for 2 days of freedom and they long for the weekends to go by quickly so they can return to the vibrant atmosphere where they are celebrated and appreciated.
I long for that atmosphere and not from the standpoint of the employee but from the standpoint of my relationships. I want the people in my life to feel appreciated and celebrated.
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 This morning I met with my mentor and another mentoree at Panera. The conversation went as it usually does, starting out with questions and answers followed by conversations stemming from the past week's events or from the questions and answers discussion.
It was at the point the conversation shifted to family and goal setting that my mentor saw an opportunity to drill my counterpart about church attendance. Drilling, drilling and drilling some more, my mentor asked "Do you go to church and Do you pray with your children?" My fellow equal began stammering and our mentor, seeing blood, went in for the kill. "You're owning it!" he exclaimed. He then explained to us that when we defend deficiencies in our life we are owning it. "Why would you want to own a weakness?" and "Don't defend it!" he said. "admit your weaknesses and take action to improve your situation."
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I am in sales in Oklahoma City. I've worked for the same printing company for 16 years and 3 years ago I bagan a major life transformation. The change came from my now 5 year old daughter who was born with moderate/severe asthma and severe allergies to more things than we can count. The asthma and allergies seemed to be connected and my wife and I soon realized preservatives in the food we were feeding her contributed to the majority of her symptoms and health problems. The transformation came when my wife and I radically changed our diets for the benefit of our 5 year old, Grace. We went through all of the food in our house and threw out anything and everything with ingredients we did not understand as well as those we knew affected respiratory function. We were/are committed to only consuming minimally processed foods which are preservative free. The result for my daughter Grace was instantaneous. No longer did she require 1 allergy shot per week and 1 allergy pill per day but her asthma became manageable. Two added benefits that were completely unexpected: our budget is not burdened any longer by the monthly $300 in medication and my wife and I started losing weight. Over the course of that year my wife lost 30lbs and I lost 75lbs. Keep in mind, we did not change our physical activity. The weight loss was due solely to the change in our diet and aside from the addition of our 4th child, Jacob, we have kept the weight off. Around the same time a local entrepreneur, Steven Vancauwenbergh, began feeding me books by the likes of Jim Rohn, Brian Tracy, Nepolean Hill and Stephen Covey...... Steven is now one of my closest friends. I consumed the books with a hunger I've never known. It was an awakening to say the least. If you have seen the movie The Matrix starring Keanu Reeves the best way I can describe my transformation is being unplugged from the Matrix. I will write more about this in a later post. I have also been reaching out to those I aspire to be like. Tom Pace has been instrumental in my development. His book, Mentor the kid and the CEO, found here mentorhope.com, is definitely worth reading. Tom recently challenged me to go 10 days without complaining, gossiping or lying. You can find out more about this here 3pointcommitment.org. I'm proud to say I have gone 12 days and my new goal is 21. Thanks to God, my wife, children, family and mentors I have matured more in the last 3 years than in all of my 37 years combined. • Plan/Do/Review
At any given moment everything I know is all I've prepared to know. To date I have written, figuratively, four books about my life. - Arena - Public Aspect of my life. Anyone and everyone has access to this book.
- Mask - Secrets and private aspects of my life. Very few have access to this book. I'm not safe if on one knows the contents of this book.
- Blind Spot - I don't know but you know. This perspective is an important part of my growth.
- Potential - I don't know and you don't know.
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In his book, From Success to significance, Lloyd Reeb references a common Russian expression...."Initiative is punishable." The question that comes to my mind is...What is greater, the fear of pain or the anticipation of reward? Usually the fear of pain is my guide and my motivation is the fear of being ordinary. Recently I made the decision to go all in emotionally despite the certain guarantee of life's punishment. I've committed emotionally to providing for my family. I'm no longer going through the motions. The rewards: - Security for my wife
- My example to my children
- Fulfillment
- Growth
The Fear: - Pain
- Loss
- Failure
- embarrassment
Is it worth it? The risk of punishment I mean.....My fear of being ordinary, normal, run-of-the-mill, standard, typical, middle-of-the-road, conventional, unremarkable, unexceptional, undistinguished, nondescript, colorless, commonplace, humdrum, mundane, unmemorable, pedestrian, prosaic, quotidian, uninteresting, uneventful, dull, boring, bland, suburban, hackneyed, garden-variety; informal plain-vanilla and nothing to write home about is greater than the risk of punishment. • Plan/Do/Review
The shoes I wear 4 days a week are about 13 years old. They are scuffed, worn out, have holes in the soles and I've reattached the heals with rubber cement 2 or 3 times. Like many things in my life my shoes are comfortable and familiar. A new pair of shoes are in order but for some reason I am holding on.
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